Rock Goodbye Angel, Inc. (RGA) is a community based 501(C) 3 nonprofit organization that offers a support network, grief education and pastoral counseling to grieving parents of pregnancy loss and early infant loss.
In the United States 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage, and over 25,000 babies are stillborn each year. More statistics confirm that these numbers plus perinatal, neonatal and SIDS related losses collectively account for over 1 million babies lost each year. This means that close to 2 million parents of these babies, in all walks of life, are grieving.
Is to invite parents of pregnancy loss and early infant loss to Open the door to HOPE and HEALING in a safe community where they are educated about their grief and given resources to help them heal.
Is to EMPOWER survivors of pregnancy loss and early infant loss to create local community chapters nationwide guiding their peers with Rock Goodbye Angel’s unique program.
Shock and Denial
You may react with numbness and disbelief, particularly in the beginning. This can occur on many levels. It may include denial of certain feelings associated with the loss well into the future.
Pain and Guilt
As the initial shock wears off, feelings of pain will surface that can be excruciating and unbearable at times. It is important to acknowledge and experience the pain fully as opposed to attempting to escape from it.
Anger and Bargaining
Anger is normal and a result of the overwhelming loss of control and intense feelings of grief. The question: “why me?” often surfaces. Despair may lead to a desire to bargain or exchange something you have done or thought for this to all go away.
A need to withdraw, deep sadness, periods of crying and taking solace in being alone is normal and a positive thing at any period after the loss of your baby. Be easy and gentle on yourself. Accept this as part of the process. It is important to focus on acknowledging and accepting how you feel and taking care of your own needs regardless of what others think or say.
The Upward Turn
As you adjust to life without your baby, things begin to get easier and there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Depression lifts as normalcy and moments of happiness begin again. Life becomes calmer and more organized. This does not mean you forget your baby. This is a good time to examine ways to honor, memorialize, celebrate or capture your baby’s memory.
As you become functional again, a more focused and rational approach can be created by seeking realistic solutions to the chaos the loss of your baby has created in your life. The world may look different now but you will begin to see that you can have periods of happiness again.
"I learned about this group after I lost my daughter at 16 weeks pregnant to miscarriage. Parents that have experienced this type of loss don't really fit into normal grief support groups since we are grieving someone we never met or only held for a short period of time. This group helped my family greatly during the worst time of our lives."
"Hi, we are Tj and Tiffany. Unfortunately, we lost our twin boys, Logan and Landon, a few short days after they were born prematurely, in February of this year. Grieving the loss of our two children is an unimaginably difficult process that we continue to deal with daily. However, on our darkest days, we can still consider ourselves blessed because we were introduced to an organization that has forever changed our lives. Our boys may have reached heaven far before we would have liked them to, but through the guidance and support of Rock Goodbye Angel (RGA), we have learned to find "purpose for our pain," so Logan and Landon's light can shine brightly and the impression they have on others can be far, far reaching."
"When Eric and I were faced with the biggest loss of our lives, we were hopeless, overwhelmed with sorrow, and broken. Rock Goodbye Angel was the 'hands and feet' that God used to mend us back together. We are forever grateful for all RGA invested in our recovery. We received hope in the midst of tragedy."